Marriage

    Supplementary Texts
     
   
  Prayers at the Calling of the Banns
     
    Prayers such as the following may be used
     
    Lord,
the source of all true love,
we pray for these couples.
Grant to them
joy of heart,
seriousness of mind
and reverence of spirit,
that as they enter into the oneness of marriage
they may be strengthened and guided by you,
through Jesus Christ our Lord. 
All
   Amen.
     
    Lord of love,
we pray for N and N.
Be with them in all their preparations
and on their wedding day.
Give them your love in their hearts
throughout their married life together,
through Jesus Christ our Lord. 
All
   Amen.
     
   
  Alternative Preface
     
    We have come together in the presence of God, to witness the marriage of N and N, to ask his blessing on them, and to share in their joy. Our Lord Jesus Christ was himself a guest at a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and through his Spirit he is with us now.

The Bible teaches us that marriage is a gift of God in creation and a means of his grace, a holy mystery in which man and woman become one flesh. It is God's purpose that, as husband and wife give themselves to each other in love throughout their lives, they shall be united in that love as Christ is united with his Church.

Marriage is given, that husband and wife may comfort and help each other, living faithfully together in need and in plenty, in sorrow and in joy. It is given, that with delight and tenderness they may know each other in love, and, through the joy of their bodily union, may strengthen the union of their hearts and lives. It is given as the foundation of family life in which children may be born and nurtured in accordance with God's will, to his praise and glory.

In marriage husband and wife belong to one another, and they begin a new life together in the community. It is a way of life that all should honour; and it must not be undertaken carelessly, lightly, or selfishly, but reverently, responsibly, and after serious thought.

This is the way of life, created and hallowed by God, that N and N are now to begin. They will each give their consent to the other; they will join hands and exchange solemn vows, and in token of this they will [each] give and receive a ring.

Therefore, on this their wedding day we pray with them, that, strengthened and guided by God, they may fulfil his purpose for the whole of their earthly life together.
     
     
   
  Alternative Vows
     
   
Form 1
  
     
    The bridegroom takes the bride's right hand in his, and says
     
    I, N , take you, N ,
to be my wife,
to have and to hold
from this day forward;
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
till death us do part,
according to God's holy law.
In the presence of God I make this vow.
     
    They loose hands.
    The bride takes the bridegroom's right hand in hers, and says
     
    I, N , take you, N ,
to be my husband,
to have and to hold
from this day forward;
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love, cherish, and obey,
till death us do part,
according to God's holy law.
In the presence of God I make this vow.
     
     
   
Form 2
  
     
    The bridegroom takes the bride's right hand in his, and says
    I, N , take thee, N , to my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth.
     
    They loose hands.
    The bride takes the bridegroom's right hand in hers, and says
     
    I, N , take thee, N, to my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.
     
    [If desired, the word 'obey' may be omitted, as follows
     
    I, N , take thee, N, to my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.]
     
   
  Prayer at the Giving of the Ring(s)
     
    Heavenly Father, source of everlasting love,
revealed to us in Jesus Christ
      and poured into our hearts through your Holy Spirit;
that love which many waters cannot quench,
      neither the floods drown;
that love which is patient and kind, enduring all things without end;
by your blessing, let these rings be to N and N
symbols to remind them of the covenant made this day
through your grace in the love of your Son
and in the power of your Spirit. 
All
   Amen.
     
   
  The Blessing of the Marriage 
     
    One of the following forms may be used
     
1
   God of life and beginnings,
you created man and woman in your likeness
and joined them together in union of body and heart;
God of love and forgiveness,
you loved us in Jesus Christ
who humbled himself to death on a cross;
God of grace and strength,
you bring your people to faith
and fill them with your presence.
Blessed are you, O Lord our God,
for you have created joy and gladness,
pleasure and delight, love, peace and fellowship.
Pour out the abundance of your blessing
upon N and N in their new life together.
Let their love for each other be a seal upon their hearts,
and a crown upon their heads.
Bless them in their work and in their companionship;
awake and asleep,
in joy and in sorrow,
in life and in death.
Finally, in your mercy, bring them to that banquet
where your saints feast for ever in your heavenly home.
We ask this through Jesus Christ your Son, our Lord,
who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit,
one God, now and for ever. 
All
   Amen.
     
2
   All praise and blessing to you, God of love,creator of the universe,
maker of man and woman in your likeness,
source of blessing for married life.
All praise to you, for you have created
     courtship and marriage,
     joy and gladness,
     feasting and laughter,
     pleasure and delight. May your blessing come in full upon N and N.
May they know your presence
in their joys and in their sorrows.
May they reach old age in the company of friends
and come at last to your eternal kingdom,
through Jesus Christ our Lord. 
All
   Amen.
     
3
   Eternal God,
you create us out of love
that we should love you and one another.
Bless this man and this woman, made in your image,
who today become a sign of your faithful love to us
in Christ our Lord. 
All
   Amen.
     
    By your Holy Spirit,
fill bride and bridegroom with wisdom and hope
that they may delight in your gift of marriage
and enrich one another in love and faithfulness;
through Jesus Christ our Lord. 
All
   Amen.
     
    Bring them to that table
where your saints celebrate for ever in your heavenly home;
through Jesus Christ our Lord,
who with you and the Holy Spirit lives and reigns,
one God, for ever and ever. 
All
   Amen.
     
4
   Blessed are you, Lord our God,
God of love, creator of all.
All
   Blessed be God for ever.
   
Bridegroom
   Blessed are you, Lord our God,
you make us in your image and likeness.
All
   Blessed be God for ever.
     
Bride
   Blessed are you, Lord our God,
you make man and woman to reflect your glory.
All
   Blessed be God for ever.
   
Bridegroom
   Blessed are you, Lord our God,
you make us for joy and promise us life.
All
   Blessed be God for ever.
     
Bride
   Blessed are you, Lord our God,
you create a people to know your love.
All
   Blessed be God for ever.
     
     
Minister
   May N and N enjoy the blessing of your kingdom.
Give them faith and joy in their marriage.
Blessed are you, Lord our God,
you give joy to bride and groom.
All
   Blessed be God for ever.
     
    May their love be fruitful
and their home a place of peace.
Blessed are you, Lord our God,
you make marriage a sign of your love.
All
   Blessed be God for ever.
     
    May they know the love of the Father,
the life of the Son,
and the joy of the Spirit.
Blessed are you, Lord our God,
Lover, Beloved and Friend of Love.
All
   Blessed be God for ever.
     
5
   This form may be added to any of the preceding blessings, or may be used on its own
     
    Blessed are you, heavenly Father.
All
   You give joy to bridegroom and bride.
     
    Blessed are you, Lord Jesus Christ.
All
   You bring life to the world.
     
    Blessed are you, Holy Spirit of God.
All
   You bind us together in love.
     
    Blessed are you, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, now and for ever.
All
   Amen.